No winners

I get very upset each time I hear someone state, "you lost" or "you win" in regards to a divorce and/or custody of children. Ok, upset is a nice interpretation of how I truly feel when I hear these phrases in the same conversation/context of these topics;  my emotions would be better described as someone who is a raging lunatic ready to go postal.

I recently witnessed this happen. This weekend I witnessed a friend and her ex-husband get into a heated debate over an issue on their children; he even exclaimed, "I win!"  To think there are winners and losers when it comes to broken homes and blended parenting is not only ridiculous, but idiotic. I want to simply punch these idiots square in the throat. Thankfully, my husband so kindly reminds me (often!) that this is not an inappropriate response. 

I will close with this; using children are not to be used as a competition.  And everyone loses when you act like they are, especially the children. Stop claiming victories and start offering grace.