You cannot make a lie a truth.

It's impossible.  A lie is a lie.  The truth is the truth.  Plain and simple, you cannot make a lie a truth.

I have been the victim of lies for quite some time.  I've kept quiet because it really does no good to argue with the person spreading the lies.  My mother always warned me, "Don't argue with an idiot or liar.  They will bring you down to their level, but more importantly, they will beat you with experience."

Yes mom, you are extremely wise.  Your wisdom still rings loud and clear today.  Even as I continue to be the center of mistruths.  Or as some within my circle of friends call it, "the story."  One wise friend still calls it a big misunderstanding.  (I believe she is right.  More on that in the last part of this post.)

The problem I am now seeing with these mistruths being retold many, many times is; this person may no longer look at what they are saying as mistruths. My husband gave me some insight to what this person is probably thinking about "the story", that they have spoken these story so many times and they probably believe the lies to be truth and to have happened just as they  retell it.

The story involves both me and my husband, we were both supposedly there when "the story" happened.  However, the problem with this story is..it didn't happen.  I didn't say these alleged things, I never would.  To throw out accusations of jealousy and slander towards you; not my forte.  Now I've heard it from mutual friends that it's said that I hate this person.  Not even a chance.  I'm disappointed in them.  Because with each retelling of this story my integrity and character is being questioned.  I am thankful that God knows the truth, I just wish the air could be cleared.
 
Those who know me, know that the word "hate" rarely comes out of my mouth.  In order to hate something, you cannot love anything about them.  Anything includes things they have made or created.  So to hate someone you must hate everything about them, including their family.  You see, for me, it is impossible for me to hate this person; even after all the hell that's been thrown my way for many years. To hate them would require me to hate people I love.  (It's truly impossible to hate someone you love.)

Instead, I will continue to choose to love them.  I'm not asking for an apology.  All I want is the telling of "the story" stop.

If you're reading this, and you have fallen victim to being either the storyteller in your life or the character in a story; I pray you find peace too.  I'm trying to find peace with this; not just for me, but for my kids as they are affected so much by it, truly more than me.

If by chance my storyteller happens to fall upon my blog, please accept my apology.  I'm apologizing, because at some point, there must have been something I said that was taken out of context, or you heard differently than what I was saying.  For that I'm sorry.  I would have never said the things I'm accused of.  I'm truly sorry there was such a deep misunderstanding that has consumed 12 years.

If you walk away with any thought from this post, please let it be that if you have an issue with someone and something they said - talk to them.  It is possible that what was said and what you heard are completely different.

Trying to clear the air,
Jackie